Helpmate provides services to victims of domestic violence in Buncombe County.
Free and confidential.
- 24-Hour Hotline: (828) 254-0516.
- Emergency shelter
- Individual and group counseling
- Help building a safe, stable future
- Court advocacy
- Training of professionals and community leaders
- Preventative education for at-risk groups
All services are provided to men and women. Helpmate, Inc. does not discriminate based on race, color, religion, sex, national origin, disability, age, sexual orientation or gender identity.
Domestic Violence is also called Intimate Partner Violence.Helpmate works with our community to eliminate abuse and fear by providing safety, shelter, and support for people who have been victimized by domestic violence.
Signs of Domestic Violence
Are you and your children safe? If you answered “yes” to several of these questions below your relationship may not be safe. If you need help deciding, call us now on our confidential hotline: (828) 254-0516
The Person I’m With
- Is not very supportive of things that I do and discourages me from trying new things.
- Does not like to listen when I have something on my mind.
- Does not talk to me when they’re unhappy with something in the relationship.
- Is not willing to compromise.
- Does not understand that we have separate interests and can spend time apart.
- Is mean or rude to my friends.
- Criticizes or distracts me when I’m doing things that don’t involve them.
- Gets extremely jealous or possessive.
- Accuses me of flirting or cheating when I’m not.
- Constantly checks up on me or makes me check in.
- Breaks or throws things when we fight.
- Threatens to destroy my things.
- Tries to control what I do, who I see, what I wear, how I look or who I talk to.
- Makes me feel nervous or like I’m “walking on eggshells.”
- Blames me for problems, puts me down, calls me names or criticizes me.
- Makes me feel like no one else would want me.
- Threatens to hurt themselves, me, my friends, pets or family.
- Grabs, pushes, shoves, chokes, punches, slaps, holds me down, throws things or hurts me in some way.
- Yells, screams or humiliates me in front of other people.
- Pressures, guilts or forces me into having sex or going farther than I want to.
We believe that we are all to be valued, and have the right to speak our truths, be heard, be honored, and achieve our full potential. We all have the right to live in safety, without violence or fear.
We embrace the diversity among ourselves and in our community, and believe that valuing people means respecting and understanding their experiences and beliefs. We are committed to maintaining a diverse organization that reflects our community.
Want to Help?
Helpmate relies on the generosity of individuals, businesses, and organizations in our community. As an independent non-profit agency, Helpmate receives funds from the United Way of Asheville and Buncombe County, federal, state, and local governmental agencies, grants from private foundations, plus donations from people like you. Thank you for your generosity!
The need for our services is growing!
As part of the new Familiy Justice Center, we are able to reach more families in need—now in four locations! With increasing requests for service, we need the support of our community more than ever. Donations of all sizes are appreciated. Together, we can be a community committed to the elimination of violence and fear, and send the message that abuse is not acceptable.
If you would prefer to send a check, please mail it to: Helpmate PO Box 2263 Asheville, NC 28802
Other Ways to Help Abuse Victims
- Endowment and Planned Gifts
- Real Estate Gifts
These types of gifts are much appreciated! Please contact Helpmate’s Associate Director Ann Flynn at 828-254-2968 x111 or firstname.lastname@example.org to consider the options and tax benefits.
Follow us on Facebook for current in-kind donation needs. Items listed below are needed on a reoccurring basis. Please call Ann Flynn, Associate Director 828-254-2968 x 111 if you wish to make an in-kind donation.
Ongoing Family and Shelter Needs:
- Shelf stable foods
- Frozen foods
- Kitchen staples (coffee, coffee creamer, cooking oil, sugar, aluminum foil, plastic wrap, salt & pepper, etc.)
- Forks, spoons, and knives
- Stainless steel pots, pans and skillets
- Dishwasher Detergent
- Toilet paper and paper towels
- Draino/Liquid Plumber
- Laundry Detergent – HE (high efficiency) only
- Garbage Bags (13 gallon & 30 gallon)
- Brooms and Mops
- Extra-long twin mattress covers (ideally bed bug resistant and rip proof)
- Pillows, new or gently used
- Table lamps (appropriate for bedrooms)
- Diapers size 2,3,4,5,6
- Baby wipes
- Gift Cards for Clients (to Target, WalMart, Ingles, etc.)
- Bath towels and wash cloths, new or gently used
- Bath soap and body wash
- Alarm Clocks
- Combination Locks
- Date/appointment books
- Pocket calendars
- Spiral notebooks
- Pocket size Kleenex
- Pocket size hand sanitizers
- Women’s new underwear of all sizes
- Women’s new bras of all sizes
- Women’s new socks of all sizes
- Children’s new underwear of all sizes
- Women & Children’s pajamas of all sizes, new or gently used
- Bathrobes, new or gently used
- New or gently used seasonal items, winter jackets, gloves, hats
You can download our ongoing Family and Shelter Needs list here. (Please note: downloading this packet from our site may not be safe if you are in a dangerous situation. If you have any doubts about your safety, please instead call us at (828)254-0516.)
Over 30% of Americans are acquainted with a woman who has suffered violence from her male partner.
Source: National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey. 2010 Summary Report. CDC
We recognize that violence is created in and sustained by our society, and that the elimination of violence begins with societal and global change. We believe that it is the obligation of our local and global community to eradicate violence by challenging a culture that values power and control.
There are many ways you can volunteer for Helpmate:
- Building and Grounds Maintenance
- Case Management Advocates
- Children's Activities and Programs
- Community and Preventative Educators
- Court Office Advocates
- Courtroom Advocates
- Hotline Advocates
- Reception/Shelter Resource Volunteers
- Technology Support
- Speakers Bureau Volunteers
- Special Events Volunteers
If you are interested in volunteering, please contact our Helpmate Volunteer Coordinator at (828)254-2968 x112 or email@example.com.
Download the Volunteer Application Packet here: Helpmate Volunteer Application Packet (Please note: downloading this packet from our site may not be safe if you are in a dangerous situation. If you have any doubts about your safety, please instead call us at (828) 254-0516.)
About 1 in 4 women (24.3%) have experienced severe physical violence by their partner (for example, been hit with a fist or other object, been shaken, or shoved into something) at some point in their lives.The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey: 2010
Having a gun in the home increases the risk of homicide 20 times when there is a history of domestic violence.Source John Hopkins Center for Gun Policy and Research, 2010
- Nearly half of all women and men in the United States have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime. (1) 48%
- Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime (3) 15%
- More than 60% of domestic violence incidents happen at home 60%
- 1 in 7 men have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime (3) 14%
- Recent global prevalence figures indicate that about 1 in 3 (35%) of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime. (6) 35%
- Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries 34%
- In the United States, domestic violence crimes account for up to 40 percent of all calls to police. (5) 40%
- Only about 55% of domestic violence incidents are reported to the police. (3) 55%
- 11% of calls to police to report domestic violence are placed by a child in the family. (7) 11%
- 1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence. (7) 6%
- The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500% (2) 500%
- In 2 out of 3 female homicide cases, females are killed by a family member or intimate partner 75%
- 72% of all murder-suicides involve an intimate partner; 94% of the victims of these murder/suicides are women 72%
- Nearly 1 in 10 women in the United States (9.4%) has been raped by an intimate partner in her lifetime. (1) 9.4%
1National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey 2010 2Risk factors for femicide in abusive relationships: Results from a multisite case control study. American Journal of Public Health, 93(7), 1089-1097. viiiTruman, J. L. & Morgan, R. E. (2014). 3Ruman, J. L. & Morgan, R. E. (2014). Nonfatal domestic violence, 2003-2012. Retrieved from http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/ndv0312.pdf. 4Jackson, N.A. 1996, “Observational experiences of intrapersonal conflict and teenage victimization: A comparative study among spouses and cohabiters” – Journal of Family Violence, vol. 11, pp. 191-203. 5“Equality Denied. The Status of Women in Policing.” National Center for Women and Policing, 1999. 6 World Health Organization 2016 7 “Children’s Exposure to Intimate Partner Violence and Other Family Violence” U.S. Department of Justice, National Survey of Children’s Exposure to Violence, October 2011.
Associate Director, Ann Flynn
Program Director, Joanna Knowles
AmeriCorps Children’s Services Volunteer Coordinator, Lauren Jackson
Bilingual Counselor, Maureen Hernandez
Bilingual Intake Specialist, Jillian Krupp
Case Management Coordinator, Amy King
Children’s Specialist, Nita Carroll
Community Case Manager, Addie Burton-Walsh
Community Case Manager, Dori English
Community Case Manager, Phyllis Taylor
Counseling Coordinator/Staff Training Coordinator, Julia Levine
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We believe that to serve our clients, we must model a violence-free community that is founded in respect and equality. By providing safety, shelter, counseling, and advocacy, we empower each client to create a life that is free of violence; by providing education, we empower our community to create a world that is free of violence.